When I think of meth, it brings to mind The Big Bad Wolf.
Knocking at the door, “Come out little piggies, come out!”
As I have images of this wolf, the Radiohead song Wolf at the Door comes to mind. I love Radiohead and listen to them, oh, my kids would say far too often, but I find Thom Yorke’s voice soothing and their music is melodious and hits me where I like it-right in the heart. So when I hear this song, it brings forth so many emotions tied up with my son.
Meth is certainly the wolf at the door.
He was doing so well. He seemed like he might make it this time and be strong. But after his legs healed he started having people hanging out next door after I told him repeatedly not to allow that.
“We aren’t doing anything wrong, I just want to hang out with my friends.”
I told him to go do that at their houses, if they had any, because I didn’t want it here. I’m all too familiar with that scenario. But he didn’t listen. He was climbing in and out of his window, as well, which, as a condition of his return wouldn’t be allowed.
It all blew up like in the song- a flan in the face.
I sent him a text telling him, yet again, that I didn’t want anyone next door and that Matthew had discovered two people in the LOCKED patio and that it had to stop. I told him I’d start calling the police if I found anyone there. He proceeded to tell me to go ahead because they won’t do anything anyway. I went on to tell him that maybe it was best, then, if he left, especially if he wasn’t interested in following one simple rule. He told me he wouldn’t leave, no way, and I couldn’t make him. I hopped in the car with Matthew because I was going to tell him to get out. I’d had it.
I got to the house pretty quickly, fuming, actually, and found him sitting at the computer with a pissed off look on his face. I told him that he needed to leave; enough is enough. He had not called his public defender to reschedule court, nor had he called the rehab facility whose program he needed to attend. He was healed and taking advantage.
The wolf huffed and puffed…
Matthew said something to the effect of, “What’s your fucking problem?”
That was it and he jumped up out of the chair and got into Matthew’s face-he’s got a few inches on Matthew as well as five years. It certainly wasn’t a fair fight but fists were flying and I yelled him to stop. He wasn’t in the mood to listen so I got on the phone with the police and as he heard me call he yelled, “No, NO, NO!” and ran out the door. I told them what happened, they came quickly, took mine and Matthew’s information as well as an account of what happened. I’m fortunate to live in a city with a nice police department.
Since Matthew got punched in the eye, the officer suggested I have the fire department come out and see if he had a possible broken nose or any other facial fractures. They were kind when checking his face and everything seemed to be intact, thankfully. I declined a ride for him to the hospital-I live about five minutes from there so no need, especially since nothing was broken.
The police said they’d keep looking for him and they’d put a “Stop and hold” on him so that all officers would know to keep him.
Felony child abuse.
I’ve tried SO hard to get him back on the right track. I tried to keep the wolf from the door but like the song says:
I keep the wolf from the door but he calls me up, calls me on the phone
Tells me all the ways that he’s gonna mess me up
Steal all my children if I don’t pay the ransom
And I’ll never see them again if I squeal to the cops…
He got picked up the next morning and is now in jail. He has court tomorrow. I fear for him in there-he’s like a little kid with a stunted brain who finds new knowledge impossible to retain. He’s been there before, doing the same shit, only now it’s ten times worse.
I haven’t been able to sleep well since Sunday. Matthew is very angry, rightfully so, and doesn’t want to see him again. I’m just plain sad.
Meth is a wolf that will huff and puff and will eventually blow your house down
I have to keep telling myself that this is not my son. These are the words of an addict lashing out. I’ll always love him; he’s my boy, he just can’t live here and blow my house down.
(I asked my daughter to draw me a wolf for this post and this is her artwork!)