I haven’t had a drink since Monday night when I decided that I really need to let my liver have a vacation. I came to that conclusion after my second martini.
Wine is my favorite drink; red wine, to be specific. I follow wine people on Instagram-they’re always cheery with a full glass in their hands wearing their fancy dresses and high heels that I’d break my neck in. There’s a certain alluring quality to the image.
The reality is, I don’t have occasion to wear the fancy dresses or high heels. I drink to quiet my mind and have a sense of peace, even if it only lasts until I refill my glass. I’d like to say it hasn’t become an issue. I’d like to say that I don’t think about it a thousand times throughout the day.
I’m overwhelmed with the chaos my oldest son has brought to my house. His drug addiction and the “friends” who follow him are inescapable. I have mothers and aunts showing up at my door looking for their kids. “I have no idea where they are,” I say. Because I don’t and I really don’t care.
His drug addiction has infested my house like a bad case of roaches and no matter what I do to try to rid myself of them, they multiply and hide in the shadows.
Have you ever heard what comes out of an addict’s mouth?
“Fuck the police.”
“I stabbed my mom’s boyfriend in the head.”
“I’m not afraid of guns.”
“I hate you and wish you’d never been born.”
One of the many reasons I’ve become so fond of having a glass in my hand-It settles these conversations; quiets them enough so I can get through my day. But lately, the drinks have become the louder voice and infiltrate any quiet I manage to get.
So I’m taking a break. It’s hard. Real hard, I won’t lie.
I have a restraining order against my son and between that and everything else he brings, I’ve been a bit stressed. Understatement of the century, folks. But I have other kids and they deserve more than a mom too buried in guilt and intoxication to take them out to dinner or to go buy book 4 in the series they’re reading.
I’ll do it because I can and because I don’t like to lose.